Andrea Sticks Up for Tamera

Hola! This week's episode was one of my favorites because I got to go to Napa. I am a Southern California girl, but I love me some NorCal, too! I understand when Tamera feels torn between her life in Napa and her life in L.A. She is close to her family, loves her job and most of her friends are in L.A., but her new family and new house are up North. She's doing her best to balance her old, single life with her new life as a Housley, which is difficult for Tamera because she's a people pleaser. If I had a dollar for every time I've asked her, OK, but what do YOU want? I might actually be able to pay off my student loans before I'm 60! Don't get me wrong, I TOTALLY empathize with her.

My heart ached when I saw how sad Tamera got as she realized she was going to miss some time with Cree before Tia left for Utah. I know how it feels. It breaks my heart when my niece and nephews beg me not to leave them. I seriously consider quitting my job and moving back home every time I hear their sweet little voices say, "Tia Ann, why can't you stay here? Don't go." I'm sure part of Tamera wanted to stay when Tia asked her to, but she could not break the promise she made to Adam. Actually, I think the wine and chocolate event helped Tamera feel more comfortable. Having to work the event and represent the Housley family reinforced the fact that she is not a visitor. I, on the other hand, got to enjoy all of the delicious Century Oak wine and mouth-watering Marich chocolate as a guest and had a fantastic time! Wait. I probably shouldn't brag about that too much or Art will put me to work!

While we were in Napa, Tamera revealed to me how hurt she was about the whole jealousy question. I can say this with absolute certainty, Tamera was not jealous of the fact that Tia was offered that Christmas movie. Now this whole argument is probably an issue of semantics. The girls have different definitions of "jealousy." Still, jealousy is a destructive emotion. It is associated with anger, resentment, inadequacy and fear—none of which Tamera felt when she heard Tia's good news. These two have been in the spotlight since they were kids and have had to grow up in an industry where they are constantly compared to one another, often in a cruel way. We've all seen the harm Hollywood can do to young people and the fact that the sisters have grown into such wonderful women is a testament to their parents. Even though they often have to compete against each other for roles, their mom taught them to celebrate one another's successes. Tamera was happy for Tia. She wanted to celebrate with her!

Now, she is human. She gets frustrated. Tamera LOVES to sing. She has always wanted to do a Christmas movie where she got to sing in a choir. So it was only natural for her to think, "Wow! I wish I could've gotten that." Instead of being jealous of her sister, Tamera turned her emotions inward. She wondered what she could have done better in order to get the role or what she can do to get that kind of role in the future, but she never felt any resentment toward her sister. One of the most admirable things about Tamera is that she is able to rise above those brief moments of disappointment and use them to motivate herself. She always says, "What is for me, I will get." She has faith and knows that the right role for her will come along. Until then, she is going to work hard, enjoy her life and stay positive. She doesn't let herself become consumed by Hollywood. She has a good head on her shoulders and knows that the entertainment business is her job, it's not her life. Speaking of life, I need to get back to mine.

Hope you all have a blessed week!

Besos,

Andrea

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