Tia Talks Mistle-Tones & Missing Cree's Milestones
Shooting The Mistle-Tones in Utah was one of the best times of my life. I felt like I was on Glee—even Gywenth Paltrow wanted to be on Glee so badly. I feel like everyone has this dream to be a rock star. That is what I got to do on Mistle-Tones. I got to sing, dance and act at the same time. I was so blessed to have the opportunity to do that. I'm also obsessed with these new adventures. I love taking my son with me and seeing things from a different perspective, like seeing snow through his eyes.
On the other hand, missing Cree crawl for the first time was the hardest things I've ever had to deal with being a working mom. I felt extremely guilty that I wasn't able to see one of his milestones. It really, really hurt me. I really think that's what a lot of moms who are working moms deal with. I was very, very sad about the whole situation. My husband had to help me change my perspective on it. My new perspective was that even though I did not get to see him crawl for the first time, it's still my first time seeing it when I do. I just have to remember that. I'm not working for my own desires. I'm working to give Cree a better life.
It affects Cory a lot, too, when Cree is away from him. Cree automatically gets to go with me because I'm the mom. Cory misses him terribly. It just makes the time that he spends with Cree even more meaningful when Cory does get to see Cree. But I always make sure to send Cory five to 10 pictures a day when he's not around—and if I don't, Cory will definitely remind me to!
I felt proud that my son was moving along and growing. It becomes more real when I start to see him babble and talk and crawling. Cree is growing up before my eyes. It just melts my heart to see him accelerate as a child.
I was so glad that Tori Spelling was starring in The Mistle-tones with me. I finally had someone who was going through the same thing I was going through and doing the same thing I was doing. She's living out what I'm living out. We talked often while filming. One of the things she told me was, "It's OK to work. Brings your kids to set."
I did end up bringing Cree on set, but it wasn't exactly a comfortable environment for him. I try to make him feel comfortable, wherever he is. When he comes on set, we're in a trailer. I like him to be comfortable and be in his own environment and be on his schedule. When you take him away from that, he gets messed up. I don't want that.
When it comes to my sister and I, we love each other so much and we never like to see each other struggle, so we're always giving out our own advice. But it was troubling for me to hear her advice because she's not living out my sitation. You have to take everything a day at a time. I'm still striving to find balance. Do I think I will find it? No!
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