Matchmaker, Matchmaker! Take Kimora's Tips—She's Got the Dating World on Lockdown!
Part of Fabulosity is recognizing chic or meaningful attributes in the things and people around us and using that as inspiration to up our own game. When you surround yourself with fabulous people, it can become kind of like a little kid's matching game. Because of that, I've been successful as an unpaid matchmaker throughout my career. It's also made me a sort of "Relationship Whisperer."
Here's a little advice I've picked up over the years, plus some new tips!
- Charlie was a true catch for Lesley! He was handsome, smart and passionate. He and Lesley actually look at the world similarly, so I thought it would be a great match. The thing is, even after you've established chemistry with someone, both people have to be ready to take that next step. It looks like Charlie was and Leslie wasn't due to some of her own issues with achieving balance between her personal and work lives. But she'll get there!
- You will be Googled! Prepare to explain anything that pops up online on your first date. You should craft a response that explains or adds just a little detail to whatever it is that the person has found. If there's something negative or sketchy, this is a great time to let your date know what's changed for you since then.
- You only need 15 minutes to determine if there's chemistry. A recent study found that a lot of singles agreed that they accurately predicted a connection within that amount of time. So work fast—every second counts!
- Don't run all the bases. Hang onto some of the mystique and mystery that you've cultivated over the date. Eighty percent of singles agree that you shouldn't go all the way sexually on your first date. Similarly, don't get too personal or overshare.
- Liking a guy is no excuse to go crazy. Keep it together, be focused and stay charming. Show your character, not your crazy!
- After the date, if you don't hear back, just move on. Quickly. Know when to fold 'em. The sooner you do, the sooner you'll be back in business and ready for what—or who—is next!