Layla On Julissa's Mr. Right

The Empire Girl explains why she and Adrienne reacted so differently to Julissa's relationship with Antrel Rolle and describes the ideal man she'd like to find for her best friend!

We all come from the same place—we love Julissa and want the best for her. However, Adrienne and I go about showing it very differently. I want Julissa to open up to me, even if inside I'm like, "Oh, I don't like that she's dating an athlete." I want her to feel she can come to me and tell me everything.

Adrienne is very loyal and very protective and has Julissa's best interests at heart. Julissa's been burned in the past by these athletes, and we don't want her to make the same mistake twice. But not every athlete is a bad guy. I don't know but if there's a connection with Antrel, but if there is a connection, Julissa has to find out what he's all about. Let him have a chance to prove he's a good guy.

Julissa's just so sweet and sees the best in everyone and doesn't see the red flags if there are problems. Adrienne's frustrated because she cares about Julissa so much. She doesn't want to see her friend get hurt again.

I said to Julissa, "You like these himbos." She likes these guys who are super-attractive, nice body—but some of them have nothing going on upstairs. She's witty, she's funny, she's intelligent, she comes from a really good family. I want to see her with someone who can teach her something. Not in a condescending way but someone she can learn from. I've learned so much about family through her, watching her with her family. She needs someone intelligent and well-rounded, more on the executive side, more intelligent, a classy man.

I know Julissa and Adrienne think I have it all, but I really don't. I'm still learning so much.I wish I had it all figured out. I know when I see other working moms they seem so balanced, and I wonder, "Wow, how do they do it?" The thing is, when you're giving your work 100 percent, you're not giving your family 100 percent; and when you give your family 100 percent, you're not giving work 100 percent. So I'm still trying to figure that out. Once I had Melody, I promised myself that, no matter what, I'm there when she wakes up in the morning, and I have to be there to put her to bed at night and read her a bedtime story.

We certainly didn't plan to have Adrienne change a diaper the day I visited. Adrienne's very beautiful and very well put together, so I thought for sure she'd be grossed out. I was the first time I changed a diaper. So I thought she'd be a lot worse, and she did really well. It was her first time and she handled it beautifully.

In a way, where Julissa and Adrienne are at is very different from where I am at, and I try to tell them there's no such thing as having it all. You get out of life what you put into it, and you constantly have to try to get better and evolve.