The Doc Is In! Dr. Joe's Steps to Smarter Dating

When Jerseylicious' Gigi and Frankie decided to try couples counseling, they sought help from Dr. Joe Amoia. The author of Smarter Dating for Women knows a thing or two about helping women work through tough relationships. This week, he's dishing out his easy-to-follow steps so you can date smart, too!

STEP 1: Get clear on the end result by writing down a list of what you want out of a relationship. Be as specific as possible! If you want to get married or start a family, put those down. Really try and write out your needs so that you can create a picture of what the ideal results will be.

STEP 2: Take responsibility for your past, those choices and decisions that didn't lead you towards your ideal results. You have to learn from the past. Most people look at the past as a mistake. No matter what I went through with my ex-fiancé, I never called it a mistake. I called it my most expensive learning experience!

STEP 3: I live by the Law of GOYA: Get off your ass. People say, "I want to have this person in my life," and then they sit at home and wait for the cable guy to ring their doorbell. GOYA is about taking the right actions towards the goals you want. The big mistake for a lot of women is that the action they take is not towards their goal. They'll say, "I want a guy who respects me and treats me well," and then they date guys who disrespect them. It's just like a person who says they want to lose weight and then eats a half gallon of ice cream. The right actions are the ones that take you closer in the direction of your goals.